“Well, you should have had him! Now don’t let up on this man. This man is dangerous!” – Rocky II
After he got the “Eye of the Tiger” he got a lifetime ban from the zoo.
It’s the new year, so, I have to buy a new calendar. Objective achieved!
When I was a young kid, say eight or nine, there were several things that I never quite understood. The first was the impact of foreign debt flow on monetary policy. The second was why people got so excited about changing from one year to another.
At best, New Year’s Eve seemed a useless waste of an evening. My parents would occasionally go to see friends, occasionally they’d host the party at our house. They’d talk, and drink, and generally have a good time. My interest in hanging out with them approached zero. Oh, sure, they were all nice, but the “got your nose” game loses its luster past the age of, oh, one.
What’s the sentence for shoplifting a calendar? 12 months.
Honestly, I really thought the concept was overblown until 2020 – I couldn’t wait to see that year in the rearview mirror. 2021? Potentially worse than 2020, and I’m glad it’s gone, too. I’m (honestly) not very optimistic about 2022.
But one thing I have learned is that I can use the concept of a new year, as stupid as it is, for me.
The nice thing about most Christmas/New Year holidays is that I have time off – time to think, time to get back with the family, and time to reassess:
who I am,
Am I following the virtues that I value? Am I being honest and truthful? Am I doing the things that provide the most value? Is my driver’s license data correct, I mean, with the exception of the weight because everybody lies about that?
what I am, and
Am I doing the things out in the world that add the most value? Am I changing the world for the better? What are the things I need to stop doing? What am I intentionally avoiding? Did I leave the waffle iron on?
where I’m going.
Am I on a path, or am I just wandering? What is keeping me off the path? Do I really have to wear clothes outside like the court order says?
Drinking alcohol doesn’t solve my problems. On the other hand, neither does drinking milk . . . .
I do this annually now. I find that one of the best places to think about these things is in the hypnagogic state where I’m not awake or asleep. I’ve had some very good insights during those moments. It’s (for me) a great place to find uncomfortable truth – things I really already knew, but that I was hiding from myself. Those insights can be utterly lost in the clutter of everyday life and the constant actions and demands.
Some of the past successes from these New Year reviews have been amazing for me, lost weight, and bad habits quit among them. I’ve used those times to understand me better.
I used to be a taxi driver, but the riders were boring. About all they said was, “Hey, I don’t live in the woods . . .”
I’d give you a list of what I’m doing/changing/quitting this year, but I’m not sure it’s at all interesting. My life is mainly a fairly boring one and except for the “acquire a chimpanzee named Bear and ride around the United States having wacky adventures” most of the items on the list are probably all items on millions of lists belonging to other people.
What happens next, though, is action. Thinking is one part, but once the decisions have been made, life comes down to taking action and making sure that I have sufficient discipline to do what I’m looking to do.
With small goals, discipline is easy. It’s not changing habits and patterns that I have built into my life over the course of decades. Changing habits that have been around since I was 18? Those are far harder. For those levels of issues, the only real solution is fanatical discipline, repeated and sustained. Muscle isn’t built on one good day at the gym. Muscle is built on hours of effort and pain.
And if the unvaxxed are a danger to the vaxxed, aren’t I putting myself in danger from the unvaxxed if I get the vaxx?
For me, the best goals are based on real, hard data. When lifting weights, the iron never lies. Choosing those things that I can describe with absolutes is crucial. “I will not ever . . .” is much better than “I’ll try not to . . .” When I combine “I will not ever” with a value? I have a goal that is stark and sleek, and one I can’t fudge.
I want this to be about the change I want versus me. I want it to be measured, clearly, in absolutes. I want the absolutes to be in my control. If I say, “I will never kill a zebra with a Ronco® Pocket Fisherman™, that’s something that’s absolute, even if that stupid zebra had it coming.
One example of a hard goal is dealing with The Mrs. When we met and dating got serious, I told her simply, “I will never lie to you.” I haven’t. It’s simple.
It’s absolute.
I also don’t have to revisit that every year. Since we’ve been married, that’s been a promise I’ve kept.
I think these absolutes scare the Left. They like to deal in degrees and shades of grey. A fudge here. A cheat there. A value subverted, and then (in many cases) a value inverted.
The last part is about failure.
Just because I start a change, doesn’t mean I have to follow through. I’m allowed to change my goal, especially as my knowledge changes. Heck, I could even be getting the opposite effects from a change that I anticipated. Time to reassess.
The last part is failure. Just because I decided to do something and failed doesn’t mean that I shouldn’t try again. It doesn’t mean that I should be afraid of trying again. In many cases, (like Rocky II, for instance) the difference between failure and victory is just getting up one more time.
Also, with the Biden administration, failure is not an option. It comes with the basic package.
Finally, I’ve learned to not fear success. What happens if I succeed with all of my goals? That has happened, and more than once.
Add more goals. I’m breathing. I’m not done. And I’m not perfect. More discipline, and getting up one more time? That’s the key.
I still think celebrating a new year is silly, but I’m going to use it this time. With enough discipline, 2022? That could be, for me, the best year ever. Heck, might as well put the new calendar to good use . . . .
Years ago, I had to take a “lie detector” test administered by the NSA (No Such Agency) to get an advanced security clearance. After all the routine questions, such as had I ever had sex with barnyard animals, the investigator asked, “Have you ever lied to your wife?” He said afterwards that that was a “shock” question to calibrate the measurements.
Ha! I wonder what he would have said to my answer!
John – I, too, have come to view New Year’s as a useful exercise in self consideration. I think that this is why, no matter what culture there is, we all have a New Year’s event. We like the opportunity to start over.
Over the years I have tried to change and modify how I define my goals and categorize them. For me, I have basically dropped them into a “Rule of Five” – five being the number of fingers on my hand, which makes it easy enough: God, Family, Career/Financial, Iaijutsu/Physical Training, and Ichiryo Gusoku, those things that will hopefully move me to my harmonious lifestyle of practice and concept.
I do like your goals of “I will never”. I need to give that more consideration.
(Also, it appears – at least temporarily – the problem with posting is resolved. I am not sure what I did but will continue to monitor.)
Thanks for the heads up on the posting.
Rule of five – excellent.
Never is nice – it’s a bright and shining line in the sand.
It really ought to be a time for reflection and to a) keep doing what you are doing right, maybe more of it, and b) stop doing what you are doing wrong. Simple as that.
Simple as. Already, I’m seeing results. Yay!
“…but the “got your nose” game loses its luster past the age of, oh, one.”
Not at the leper colony.
I’m sure I’ll see that material again somewhere…
Hahahaha! There’s a soup joke in here somewhere . . .
“…failure is not an option, it comes with the basic package…”
Amen, that sums up this phony administration perfectly.
“failure is not an option! It comes bundled with your Microsoft product.”
Yup. And they’re not done yet.
Think about it…2022 is basically 2020 too. Same stuff, different year.
I’m just thinking, it *has* to get better some year??
Sir,
For reference, have you seen this?
https://tv.gab.com/channel/white__rabbit/view/dr-vernon-coleman-now-more-than-61d1a0d5bf5441866f085eeb
My wife and I watched it last night, and we were a bit staggered by the content. If Dr Coleman is anything like correct in his assessments, this whole situation just became a very different conversation.
Our resolve, however, is only strengthened.
Thanks for your efforts, sir. Anyone even attempting to parse current events, and elucidate the results, is to be commended.
-M-
Giving that a look . . . thanks!!!
I do my resolutions in pixels.
hahahaha!
On game night, was your host Risk-averse?
He did have a monopoly on the conversation.
“My life is mainly a fairly boring one and except for the “acquire a chimpanzee named Bear and ride around the United States having wacky adventures”.
I would rather get the BJ.
Hahahaaha!