“My job is to see that big, strong men like you get on these buses without getting lost.” – Stripes
The other day I spent the afternoon playing chess with senior citizens in the park. Took me a while to find 32 of them.
Even thirty years ago, finding a spouse was as easy as grabbing a beer at a kegger. You met. Maybe at school, maybe at church, maybe at work, maybe some friends introduced you. Hell, maybe at the kegger. It was a straightforward and reliable process, and it was also often sweaty and fun.
Even before my time, though, it was even easier. Take it back to the 1800s, and men brought home the bacon, women kept the hearth warm, and together they built a life, maybe a farm, maybe a picket fence. Often, people would meet and spend their whole lives in the same location.
The process wasn’t perfect, but it worked for thousands of years.
Fast-forward to 2025, and the mating market is a dumpster fire. A constant source of conversation is the baby bust, describing how women aren’t reproducing enough children to keep society going.
Part of the reason for that is that cultural shifts and technological disruptions have turned love from carnal creativity in the backseat of a Camaro™ to the swipe of a finger on the smooth glass of a screen protector. The result? A generation of lonely hearts, spinsters, and guys who’ve decided sweatpants and beer are a better deal than chasing women who don’t even see them as people.
Pro tip: never yell “shotgun” when you’re boarding an airplane. Apparently, TSA doesn’t appreciate that.
Culture and tech crashed the human mating economy, and why it’s tearing the family, the atom of society, to shreds.
For thousands of years, societies kept a lid on female promiscuity, not because of some patriarchal conspiracy (okay maybe it was, we’re still meeting Thursday night, right guys?), but because it worked.
People who tear down traditions often don’t realize exactly what they’re destroying until it’s gone, and then it’s too late because the fragile fabric that it was supporting has collapsed. It’s sort of like playing Jenga™ with retarded monkeys on crack, but I won’t speak any more about how I know that.
Tradition knew what science later confirmed: high rates of female promiscuity correlate with lower marriage rates and higher divorce rates. Skanky women are horrible for society. A 2020 study from the Institute for Family Studies found that women with more sexual partners before marriage are less likely to stay married. They graph waivers after the big increase in marrying a woman who has had more than one sex partner to a big drop at around four sex partners (for some reason). If you can’t get a virgin, four seems to be the lucky number. But if you’re the 167th guy to tap into that action?
My math number was afraid of negative numbers. He’d stop at nothing to avoid them.
The chances of you being “the one” are nearly zero, yet in 2025 she still wants a ring worth six months of blood, sweat and tears and a house and she brings . . . you being number 167.
Back when shame was a thing, women faced social pressure to be selective, and men had a reason to step up for a low-mileage woman. Now? Shame is as outdated as a Marvel™ movie. Women are free to “explore” and “find themselves” and “live their best life” all while banging a neverending stream of potential Prince Charmings.
Then there’s money.
Historically, men were the breadwinners, or at least the leaders in the grind in the family business or farm, with Ma raising the kids and churning the butter while Pa tamed the back 40. Women relied on men for financial stability, and men relied on women to keep the home and raise the children.
Enter the modern workforce: women now make up nearly half of U.S. workers and 90% of the human resources department everywhere. That leads to the dilemma of the Stunning and Brave woman: she wants a man who makes more than her, yet demands equal pay. A 2023 Pew Research study found 55% of women prefer a partner with higher income (and 45% of women are liars). That’s fine, but men’s wages have stagnated since the 1970s while women’s have risen. The math doesn’t add up.
Feminism is a broad issue. (meme as found)
Worse, the government has stepped in as Husband 2.0.
Welfare programs, from food stamps to housing subsidies, act like a sugar daddy for single women, especially mothers. In 2022, over 40% of single-mother households received some form of public assistance. Why marry a man when Uncle Sugar’s got your back and they can still bang all the men they want and don’t have to listen to any man?
Women on welfare aren’t wives anymore; they’re concubines of the state, trading solemn vows for EBT and government cheese. The family, once the bedrock of civilization, is now a casualty of games and prizes fueled by promiscuity and feminism. But I repeat myself.
Not to brag, but my wedding reception was so beautiful that even the cake was in tiers.
And that’s not even factoring in divorce-rape where unhaaaaapppy or bored women can hit the eject button and blow up the marriage with no real consequences except getting to keep the house, kids, cash and getting a free ticket to ride on the Chad carousel.
That’s bad enough. It’s actually worse than Madonna’s herpes.
If culture cracked the mating market, technology crushed it like a python on a peanut. Enter Tinder®, Bumble®, and the swipe-right revolution. Women, all women, are hypergamous. They want the very best mate they can find. Society used to keep them in check through societal pressure. Oh, and soon enough they would have run out of random men to pleasure. Now the apps give them a digital buffet of Chads, Brads, and Thads.
Is anyone named Thaddeus nowadays? I digress.
A 2021 study showed women on dating apps rate 80% of men as “below average” in attractiveness, while men rate women more realistically on a bell curve. The result? A 5 or 6 woman swipes right on a 10. Call him Prince Charming the Senator’s son, complete with abs and a hedge fund, who might bang her once but won’t stick around for breakfast or be seen in public with her, let alone hang a ring on her.
I hear he’s from the bad side of his Italian hometown – he came from the spaghetto.
She walks away thinking, “He was the one, I could get him to marry me,” and now every guy who doesn’t match up to Prince Charming is . . . settling. Yes. Settling, even though Prince Charming doesn’t remember her and only picked her up because it was a Tuesday, and was just taking his father’s deathbed advice: “go ugly, early” and picked her up just for amusement.
Spinsterhood beckons, with a side of cat and wine memes.
Men aren’t entirely innocent bystanders here, either.
Faced with an endless parade of women chasing the top 10% of guys, many men have thrown in the towel. Why grind for a better job, hit the gym, or learn to dress like you didn’t just roll out of a laundry basket?
The odds aren’t good. (as found)
A 2024 survey found 30% of men aged 18-29 have given up on dating entirely, opting for porn, video games, or “monk mode.” They’re not wrong to notice the game is rigged against traditional one-for-one sorting. Now, Chad gets his choice, and, if they’re lucky, the might get the attention of a slagged-out woman who is still pining for Chad – a widow for a man that was only in her life for a night.
This isn’t just about lonely Friday nights. This is about the death of the family. Men want decent looks, monogamy, and a partner who’s kind—basic stuff. “She can’t read but she’s faithful and hasn’t had sex with Baltimore” has become a passing grade for many.
And if you want to argue about Monopoly®, you have to wait until Thanksgiving like everyone else.
Women want the whole package: money, status, looks, protection, and a guy who’s basically a football start with a corner office.
Wait. Tom Brady didn’t work out for his wife. Neil Armstrong’s wife became unhaaaapppy. What chance does the average guy have?
Marriage rates are at historic lows, being down 60% since 1960. Divorce rates hover around 40%. Kids grow up in fractured homes or none at all, with single-parent households now at 30% nationwide and rising. The family, the core unit, the atom that glues society together, is being eroded by individualism on steroids.
I could write a book about this topic, but you get the idea.
So how do we dig out of this mess?
Start with culture. Bring back shame. The scarlet-letter kind. Encourage women to value loyalty over chasing Chad, and men to step up instead of checking out. That starts with incentives, because I don’t think anyone has any shame left.
I got fired from the library today. Apparently, putting books on feminism in the “dystopian fantasy” section was frowned on.
Let’s rethink current incentives. Have a kid and no husband? Tough luck. No child support, no state support. Same thing with divorce. No fun and prizes for that, and if you’re at-fault, you lose the kids. Sure, tax breaks for married couples or policies that don’t make Uncle Sugar a better bet than a husband are nice, but we don’t need a nudge, we need a nuke.
Will the norm come back? It has to. Two more generations of this, and civilization will cease to exist. Perhaps G. Michael Hopf (LINK) got the old quote wrong and it should go more like this:
Bad times create strong men,
Strong men create good times,
Good times make women skanky,
Skanky women create bad times.
Don’t worry, nothing’s depending on this. I mean, nothing other than the fate of civilization.
No need to write a Book.
Just Read one.
“And when Jehu was come to Jezreel, Jezebel heard of it; and she painted her face, and tired her head, and looked out at a window.”
Albeit the repercussions were slightly more harsh.
And he said, Throw her down. So they threw her down: and some of her blood was sprinkled on the wall, and on the horses: and he trode her under foot.
Yup. Nothing new.
Human female pair-bonding ability appears to be a non-renewable resource. Government school culture promotes wasting her strongest pair-bonding experience, loss of virginity, on a male her same age who she doesn’t care that much about, and has nothing to offer her.
Feminism says women should work in their 20’s when they are fertile, then have children in their 40’s when they produce autism. There is no reason this couldn’t be reversed so women marry and start families after two years of college to meet an older husband, then go back to college to pursue an occupation when the children are teens. Remember group pictures of female college graduates holding up their ring hands to show they were engaged? Much of young women in the workplace is day care to prevent those women from having children.
Darwinism is already fixing this, as those bad genes are not reproducing.
I imagine college professor Neil Armstrong could have had a take-a-number dispenser on his desk if he wanted. Hi ladies, who wants a moon shot?
> So how do we dig out of this mess?
Men need to stop obeying the no-fault-divorce laws. If men didn’t obey these would be a non-starter. Pacifism never works, you can’t “encourage” women or voters or any other parasites to stop abusing you.
“Men need to stop obeying the no-fault-divorce laws. If men didn’t obey these would be a non-starter.” Hmmm – pretty sure that will get you an all-expenses trip to the Pokey. When men don’t “obey the Family Court” – they go to jail. When women don’t obey, they get looked at … harshly … then allowed to continue to ignore the Family Court.
The State makes a LOT of money on divorces and alimony/child support – they’re not going to give that up.
> pretty sure that will get you an all-expenses trip to the Pokey.
Gosh, if only one single black man sits at the lunch counter, and none of the other black men support him, why that one single man will go to the pokey. Obviously that is the only possible approach, and we have no historical example of any other approaches which worked.
The Connecticut legislature demanded more gun registration in 2014, and sent out 250,000 registered letters to assumed gun owners. Only a small percent complied. There were no repercussions.
Most jobs for women are depopulation daycare.
Women decide on Sex. Men decide on Marriage. Problem is (IMO), no man is going to slay dragons for (or marry) the village bicycle. Body counts for most women ( by ~age 24) number in the many tens if not hundreds. This is where the term “Hoeflation” comes into the picture.
The number of women worth marrying has fallen off a cliff – and even the “good ones” aren’t going to be immune to the siren call of all of their single/divorced TikTokBook friends convincing them that being divorced is a much better way to live – and divorce odds absolutely skyrocket if your wife has been indoctrinated in a Feminist Day Camp for 4 years at college.
Men can’t fix this. Suggesting that young men “suck it up” and charge naked into a phalanx of spears pointed at them by our gynocentric society is silly – and tone deaf. For men, they ask, “What’s the best that could happen vs what’s the worst that could happen, and what are the odds between the two outcomes?” Men are practical if not completely logical. As a young man, are you going to run across a (societal and Family Court) minefield – to get to some cut-rate, used-up cooch who won’t appreciate you or your efforts – after watching that same minefield blow limbs off of your brothers and cousins and fathers? No. You’re going to decide the juice ain’t worth the squeeze, there IS no upside for you, and spend your life on things you enjoy. Modern women only bring stress, drama and chaos – it’s in their wiring.
There are some things that the State could do to improve this situation, but the Legal Industrial Complex and Alimony/Child Support Industrial complex that have grown up around divorce are not going to give up their Golden Goose voluntarily. Eliminating No-Fault Divorce, passing reciprocal sentencing laws for false SA accusations, and requiring REAL EVIDENCE of “abuse” in divorce proceedings would help, but not fix things. As long as women can delude themselves into thinking that every “like” they get on social media for that duck-lip-in-a-bra selfie is really a guy waiting to pop a ring on their finger, things won’t improve. I think it’s going to take a social/economic collapse to start getting that under control … and at that point, we’ll have bigger problems.
Yet again, Mother Shipton comes to mind ….
The state doesn’t want to fix things. The replacements and feminists are easier to control.
Excellent, as usual. This missive is something every parent should have their children read as they are about to graduate high school.
I have a theory which you might explore in a future missive. It concerns the statistic that nearly 60% of college undergrad enrollment is female. And where do many of those women go ?? They become school teachers.
But with overabundant female students in the college dating pool, the skanky ones are the ones getting dates over the chaste. So while pursuing a degree, the lasses are pressured by demographics to skank downward to get dates. Even the B+ rated girls have to compete and so the culture that develops is one where being sexually hungry gets girls lots of dates.
Then these girls get diplomaed and start teaching your 12-17 year old sons (and I suppose your daughters are not out of contention with apparent rise in lesbianism). These teachers are in a much smaller dating pool, new environment, cannot party nightly, moved to new town where few outside of their daily contacts are known. And that is why we see so many women teachers “enjoying” the opportunity to chase young boys/pre-men for sexual excitement, relevance/substitute for mothering, and close bonding.
Their college skanky behaviors continued post graduation and their fantasy world beckons (women have that tendency to think emotionally instead of rationally). Pretty soon they have their very own mug shot to send home to perplexed Mom and divorced Dad.
You can use any if this if needed for your missives.
Government absorbs most women with degrees.
Let’s consider the large segment of 18-35 year old females (married w/out children & single) that are on Prozac, Zoloft, et al. A recipe for mental illness. Coupled with reinforcement from the MSM & advice from “girlfriends” on the same meds, toxic brain waste is created.
In my end of the world, there’s an abundance of attractive, unattached single females where we frequent for lunch & dinner. And way too many married women on a Girls Night Out, looking for the next Mr Pocketbook.
My take is when the financial House Of Cards collapses the female silliness will end.
It will, because it is an entirely artificial construct.
“…we don’t need a nudge, we need a nuke…”
Maybe we should take a play from our favorite nuclear-armed punching bag.
https://meduza.io/en/feature/2025/07/30/you-ll-want-to-do-it-again
You correctly note that shame has ceased to exist, and I personally don’t think it’s coming back. So we gotta start thinking about the carrot and not the stick. I hate to suggest the following, because capitalism needs to be based solely on return of value to shareholders and not a duty to change society, but what the heck. We’ve attached health care and DEI to employment in the past – why not try a sliding wage scale based on marital status and number of children. Yeah, that’s getting uncomfortably into “to each according to their needs” territory, but at least it would be attached to honest work and not EBT freebies. Where, to circle back, EBT has become part of the problem as a fatherless shame-free zone.
https://x.com/iAnonPatriot/status/1954168563620516266
How much does that clueless bint spend on her hair, nails and makeup, while b!tching about restrictions on how she spends the mercy checks that we, the hard-working taxpayers magnanimously underwrite?
No, bint, your daughter does NOT ‘deserve’ a popsicle, on my dime, while you still have money to pay for tats, makeup and hair treatments, which you insist on having (in order to try to attract Chad) even as you insist that you don’t need no man.
Entitlement off the charts. I used to feel pity for single, 30+ year old women, assuming that they were merely the lost and unchosen. No longer. Far too many of them are actually just failed gamblers who aimed too high or threw away a safe bet hoping for the really big score.
To paraphrase Dirty Harry, A woman’s got to know her limitations.
It will come back because there is no other choice. The question is it Scarlet Letter or Sharia?
For tens (hundreds?) of millennia, mythology was used by preliterate cultures to teach, well, everything. Eve and Pandora were female FOR A REASON…
EVERY social pathology is downstream from “Oh, that poor….” illegal alien, incarcerated thug, fatherless gangbanger, crappy teacher (“she’s doing her best!”), below-replacement fertility, and total lack of consequences. Weaponized empathy and compassion are destroying society, culture and civilization. And the ONLY way to fix it is to repeal 19A. Suffrage – OR – civilization. We OBVIOUSLY can’t have both.
Read today that women treat everything that cries as a baby, especially if they don’t have a kid of their own.
Contra your “Behold Feminism” image, tomboys are, to my experience, very loyal and sexually reserved. YMMV.
Tomboy aren’t feminists. Everyone I knew was a real woman that had strength and courage. A femo is weak and childish. I’m taking an online music course that unfortunately is dominated by women. After working in a male dominated career, I’m astonished by comments like can I only play the chord as noted when noted!?! It is self-paced at home with no checking. Men would say I’ll play it any damn way I want.
Something broken in a women’s mind.
My read is that those are goth punk chicks. I’m married to a tomboy, and am a tomboy fan.
I’m thinking when women can decide on a restaurant, they’ll make better choices in men.
Bingo.
“So how do we dig out of this mess?”
First thing we do, kill all the … uh, lawyers. It’s not a “hate crime” to say lawyers.
Less sarcastically, two obvious contributors to this mess are Second-Wave Feminism, and pornography. 2WF was led by Friedan, Abzug, Steinem, and Firestone. Three point five out of four ain’t bad.
As for pornography, well, maybe best not to Notice who largely controls it. Incidentally, how many white men truly enjoy watching white women getting fucked by negroes? Honestly. So why is there so much of it in porn? I’ll admit there IS probably the “self loathing” aspect of “well, that chick will bang a negro so her standards are low enough to bang a loser like me” but that’s not the main reason. The main reason is that it’s a humiliation ritual. And it’s not primarily aimed at the women involved, but at the guy watching it.
“They hate you and want you dead” is a common but completely wrong statement. They hate you and want you demoralized, humiliated, ashamed, and afraid. This applies to broader “Western” culture outside of porn, by the way. Women have been de-sexed, and men trained, browbeat, and conditioned into the negative aspects of female behavior. Small wonder we’re below replacement TFR.
Your last sentence is their goal. Really.
1) Outlaw alimony, on the grounds that the 13th Amendment outlawed indentured servitude forever. At divorce, all community property is divided in half, sold, and the proceeds split equally, including the house.
2) Limit child support, by law, to no more than 5% of any man’s salary, per child. And FTR, 5% of “unemployed” is still “nothing”.
3) Decrease child support welfare by 80% for every child after the first one (IOW 100%, 20%, 4%, etc.). If they have any of the additional children while on child support, it ends completely, for life. Ditto for any drug, alcohol, or other criminal convictions. There is no constitutional right for criminals to breed at public expense.
Once we cut off the gravy train from ex-husbands and Uncle Sugar Daddy, whorestitute’s thighs will slam shut faster than strangers’ wallets when you ask them for money.
Poverty will prevent hypergamy for anyone but professional pornstars, and drive all the amateurs out of the game for good.
But keep no-fault divorce: the prospect of being tossed onto the street without a paycheck might induce some of the society’s lifelong prostitutes to value a husband for more than a financial stepping stone.
Get rid of family court judges entirely. All divorce cases to be heard by a panel of 6 men and 6 women, selected at random, with no right of counsel for either side to dismiss the random picks. And if counsel misbehave, and turn the jury against their client, they lose their payday. Like people in an armed society, counsel will break their backs at that point to be fair and honest, or go broke.
Next, make schooling mandatory, but make public school optional, and only the people that send their kids there may be taxed for it. You get what you get, for what you bring in.
Those two moves will cure most of society’s ills inside of a single generation.
If you want to fix the rest, halt all immigration for 100 years, and repeal the 16th, 17th, and 19th Amendments.
America would become the freest and most prosperous nation on the planet, and leave the rest of the world in the dust. By next month.
Now this is a plan I can get behind!